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The c word – why do mums feel they have to apologise for it?



I was watching an old episode of Recipes to Riches on Channel 10 the other day.  They were showing a mum who came up with a new baby food recipe which I loved.  Anyway she had to interview a number of mums to see if they liked the food and would they feed it to their baby’s.  One of the mums piped up and said for her, convenience was important – and then apologised for it. And I wish that she was the first mum I have seen apologise for wanting convenience when it comes to looking after their baby.

I saw a stat that said the average mum works for at least 100 hours per week.  Work rightly includes looking after the kids, the house and family.  Oh and of course there are mums that do all of that and also go to a third party employer or start their own business that pushes over 100 hours of work.  This is the reality for most families.

I think we need to start making a very big distinction between finding convenient products and services – things that may help us in our everyday – and being negligent or dismissive of our children. I am tired of people sitting around with too much time on their hands, making judgements about what is right or wrong about other people's families.

Looking after your family includes looking after you.  And that means psychologically, emotionally and physically. 

No one can tell you your business. And not all advice will be right for your family.  So here's my five cents - listen to everyone’s different advice and “words of wisdom” but do what is right for your family.  And when you need to take a short-cut, or many short-cuts, just make it the best that you can.  There is nothing wrong in finding help where you can and making life run a bit smoother.  Convenience is not a dirty word.  

Tips & bits... High chair do’s and don'ts

High chairs are prime real estate guzzlers.  They are located in the heart of your home, and are used for one of the most important tasks you have to do.  Take your time, be realistic, and make sure what you get is not a safety hazard – either for you as a tripping hazard or for baby.

Stokke Tripp Trapp Chair

Stokke Tripp Trapp Chair

  • Understand the room that you have – where will it be and what is the available space? Use a measuring tape to understand what size chair you can fit.
  • Width of the chair - be careful you can be tripping over them if they are too      wide. Not ideal with hot food or baby in hands.
  • Simple is best – lots of cavities and indents are difficult to clean – and when      baby starts eating solids and then self-feeding – there is a lot to clean.
  • Check that everything is easily cleaned – detachable, machine washable or easy to wipe
  • Check the safety – baby’s wriggle and squirm – can they get out or tip the chair.
  • Make sure it has a good harness that will work when baby is small and quite      placid as well as older, bigger and wanting to stand up in it.
  • Check that is has an insert to support small babies, but removable once baby is larger
  • Make sure the back is high enough to give the baby good support
  • If you do not have a lot of space, consider the seat options available:
  1. Independent seats (with high backs e.g. Mamas and Papas and Bumbo seats) that can either stand alone or be attached to an adult chair
  2. Chair attachments that cannot stand on their own but that are very compact (check and follow age recommendations)
  3. Child seat that converts to a standard chair as your child grows